Commitment Has No Recipe

Hubby and I were not your typical college students.
With him working in the wine business and me loving to eat and cook, we were more often found at restaurants than frat parties.  And one thing we loved most was Sunday brunch.  One of our favorites was in the Upper Village of Montecito in the far back corner with an outside patio.  I loved their blueberry muffins.

We also loved Sunday drives.  We would often get in the car and cruise around the local streets of Santa Barbara and Montecito, making our way to brunch.  On Easter Sunday, 1983, on our way to brunch we had a memorable drive that found us at the stop sign of Micheltorena and Alta Vista.  Hubby looked over at me and said, “Maybe we should get married.”  I said, “Okay.”  And then we went to brunch.

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It wasn’t quite as uneventful as it sounds, but pretty close.  I’m sure we kissed and felt elated at our decision but truthfully, neither of us remember much except the street corner, the stop sign and what was said.  It has become kind of a romantic story after all these years and we have been back to our stop sign on occasion to “renew our vows” on our December 31st anniversary.  Actually, we just laugh as we recreate our big moment.  We invited (forced) our kids to join us many times to the “spot where it all began” so they could roll their eyes at the lameness of our engagement.  But I think they get the message.  Love doesn’t need elaborately orchestrated parties or expensive showings of affection.  Love just needs commitment.  And maybe a yummy brunch or two along the way.

Hubby and I just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary on New Year’s Eve.  We didn’t make the kids go to the sign this year.  We took them with us on a nice vacation instead where they got to hike and snorkel, visit ancient Mayan ruins, canoe through caves, sail, see Manatees and relax in hammocks.  So instead of rolling their eyes, this time they were singing our praises and happily celebrating our commitment.

“Love shouldn’t be about jealousy or anything like that.  It should be about commitment and being able to trust that person.  If you can’t have that from the get-go, there’s a problem.”
– Aaron Carter



  1. Kerin Friden · · Reply

    Happy Anniversary,Cynthia!! Your story is as charming as you and Eric. I send you both a big hug!


    1. Hugs for you too Kerin 🙂


  2. Nancy Spivey · · Reply

    Happy Anniversary! I love you both, and am so very proud of you and your family.



    1. Thanks Nancy. See you soon 🙂


  3. Patty Z · · Reply

    Congratulations! What a shining example of love and commitment you are to your beautiful children!


    1. Thanks Patty. My children are loving this anniversary! xo


  4. Beautiful, dear Cynthia. Love it! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!! xxx


    1. Thank you Hollye. xoxo


  5. daryl stegall · · Reply

    Love that post Cynthia! You and your family are so dear to us. I’m so glad you said “Okay” on that special day 30 years ago! Happy Anniversary xox


    1. Thanks Daryl! xoxo


  6. Sue Booth · · Reply

    That is a beautiful story Cynthia! Congratulations to you both on a wonderful life together and your gorgeous family!!! I love reading your blog as you write so warmly and beautifully – please don’t stop!
    Love to you all from Melbourne,


    1. Thank you Sue. I love to hear that people enjoy reading my stories! Happy New Year to you and your family. xo


  7. Alison Aiassa · · Reply

    Happy Anniversary! I love your blog, you always share a little piece of your heart. Here’s to another 30+ years of glorifying and edifying each other.


    1. Thank you Alison! xo


  8. Virginia Dahlenburg · · Reply

    What a lovely story – happy anniversary, new year and everything else, love Virginia x


    1. Thanks Virginia! xo


  9. Happy Anniversary! So glad that you could all be together to celebrate your love! Here’s to many more! xo


    1. Thank you Jo. Look forward to seeing you soon! xo


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